You see, the exWAW told me that there were many times where she seriously considered getting back together...but that I was too busy going out, being happy, and moving on. She said not once did you send me flowers, ask to take me to dinner, or anything to show you wanted me back
Don't believe it for a minute! Do you think your W is the only one who ever said something like this? "I was considering getting back together until you messed up, so now I've changed my mind".
She didn't want you back! Don't you get it? She was the WAW! She still is. She simply wants assured in her own egotistical mind that you really did want her during the time she resented you being busy & happy GAL without her!
I hate that you showed all your cards. You opened your tool box and pulled everything out and explained what it was used for, didn't you?
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She said she hopes one day that I can be because she never wants to lose track of me. She said she doesn't know if finding herself will lead back to me or not, but that I deserve better than for her to ask me to wait for something that may or may not happen.
And that's the real reason. It's not that DB doesn't work. She wanted to turn things around and blame you and say you didn't want her back enough to "fight" for her......and you fell for it. Now you're saying DB simply backfired on you.
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She said she wishes she knew it was because of books that I was ignoring her...she said she thought it was because she hid the almost-OM from me that I wanted nothing to do with her.
"Almost OM", huh? Good one. Guess her conscious bothered her when you weren't chasing.
Well, now she can move on to Florida (to find herself) and feeling all smug, knowing where you are temp-wise in the R. She leaves with a clean conscious b/c you have assured her it's all the fault of this book you read, and that you would have been chasing her and desperately trying to get her back if not for the advice you received.
Do you have any idea what you've done? She just played you big time!
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
