Funny thing is, H is not particularly handy. Although his father is and occasionally helps us. Honestly, I feel like the less I can depend on H the better. Even though, as you said, he has an interest in the value of the house as well. That's actually why I'm hoping he would be willing to help pay the mortgage for a few years. We only brought it 3 years ago (and probably overpaid) so would likely take a loss if we tried to sell it right now.

In terms of increasing income, I would not change jobs. My job is really good and I actually have a good income from it (just too much house!). I have a lot of flexibility, a very understanding boss, can work at home when I need to and am on a good career path currently. I've thought about possibly retail during the holidays as a second job for a little additional income. Not sure how that would work but maybe? I've also thought I could rent out a room in my house but I think that would have to be just the right situation for me to feel comfortable (a friend of a friend or something).


M: 42
H: 43
M: 8 years
S7 and D4
H has D19 and S25 from previous M
Bomb: 3/6/14 OW discovered, EA & PA
1st separation, 10 days, decided to reconcile & moved back in. Fail
2nd separation: 5/1/14