She did WAW, then I did EA, now I'm DBing...poorly

[Joe1981]

Labug, you are absolutely correct about the boundary setting. I need to ease into it. I also need to remember to check myself and make sure I'm not being a jerk or avoiding the conflict to cover up my own crappy behavior. On that note, I need to make sure there is no more crappy behavior. Which leads me to her reasons for being so pissed...I was venting via Facebook message and she asked to see my phone, then she saw the venting. She sees it as talking s**t. It wasn't, but that doesn't matter, what matters is how she sees it. So I learned that the hard way. No more Facebook except to get together with friends to GAL.

We're actually not as far from co-parenting as you might think. At the risk of being stupid and mind reading, I'm actually optimistic that if I get my crap sorted out and start walking the walk, she may turn around on this. Trying not to get hopes up and trying to get focused. If I had ANY money, I'd call a DB coach. As it is, I need to retread DR. Buy 5LL and read that and, on the advice of my IC, read After the Affair.

I was as upbeat as possible tonight. The kids were difficult. She had to get a new phone today, so she asked me to help her back up her photos off her old one and clear it so she can sell it. I know I can't read into it, but it felt good to do something for her.

Thank you for the thought provoking questions.