Thanks, ss. I was really peeved too, and glad that I hadn't actually made the cake yet. I'm pretty sure he didn't change plans only 12 hours before he left, so I'm also pretty sure he's been withholding. Feels cruddy.
I just haven't felt like I've been liking him all that much recently, and this certainly didn't improve things. More than anything, I was angry with him - it's inconsiderate and all about him and, like you said, a jerk move (and apparently an intentional one). I guess I shouldn't be surprised, given how things have been, but then along comes some fresh new flavour of crappiness and I feel like I've been knocked a few steps backwards again.
M - 34 H - 36 Together 10 years Married 4 years BD - March, 2014