Welcome though I'm sorry you find yourself here. It's a great place and it seems like you're on the right track. It's hard but stop trying to analyze every little thing. Get out, GAL, do awesome things with your son, hang out with old friends, volunteer at your church... Basically, take care of you. This helps a lot with the pain and allows you to take deep breaths again. Stop being so available. You're busy. Get a life. You'll feel less like you're in limbo but you will still need patience (something I'm having trouble learning).
Others will have advice about handling the OM, I'm not experienced in that dept. you're amongst friends so post often.
