I want to save my marriage but I don't know how. I seem to be blowing everything up and I can't stop myself.
I read other posts and people were saying to "walk away" and "be aloof." "Make her come to you."
I think this is good advice. I can do this.
I did this last year. I moved out and cut off all communication. She begged me back after two months. She refused to sign the divorce papers. She admitted everything was her fault. She promised to go to counseling.
But this time is different. After I left she signed the papers and gave them to me. She said I can file them or not file them it's my choice.
I have acted aloof. I haven't called her. I go to the house and do chores but she stays gone when I am there. I put money in the joint account so our bills stay paid.
She never says thank you. She doesn't acknowledge any of this.
I honestly don't know what to do. She is different this time. It's not like last year. I don't think she is going to ask me to come home.
Acting aloof isn't working. "Having my own life" isn't working.
