Dealing with WAW Part 3

[pilot]

Hey oad,

Things are definitely interesting here on my end. I just got back from my W's place and looking at schools there. There was no hugging when I landed. We went and had lunch with the kids first, then went to look at a couple of schools. Relatively uneventful. Later in the evening, she and I went and had dinner and drinks by ourselves (her parents were watching the kids). It was a good time, and we talked and laughed about this and that. Stopped off at the store on the way home because she wanted to sit on the swing with me back at her parents house and have a few more beers. On the ride home though, she asked what my thoughts were on the kids and where they should go to school. Since we were still at odds, that conversation did not go the way she wanted. I knew it wouldnt. But I tried my best to be as delicate as I could, validate her reasonings, empathize with her fears of not being with the kids 100% of the time, and give my opinion on the school issue. She basically went quiet. She began texting someone on her phone, and basically kept at it until we got back to her place...about 20 minutes later. When we got back there, I grabbed a beer, and was walking to the back door to go sit on the swing. She was texting someone and said she would be out there soon. 5 minutes later, she came out. We basically sat and said nothing for an hour. I kept a running commentary on the poor lonely firefly which was flying around a tree in front of us looking for another firefly. Had to break the silence every 10 minutes with something...

I had made a hotel reservation for that night, but somehow she and her dad had convinced me to cancel it and stay at her place. I really should have kept it. The couch was not what I was looking for! She did offer to let me stay in her bed (it was unclear if that meant WITH her, or in the bed and her on the couch.) I said I did not want to 'kick her out of her own room' so I took the couch. Next morning, the same thing with her texting someone. This was one of the things that really annoyed me during the last few months we lived together. Where we would be sitting on the couch together and she was off in cyberland on her phone. I did not say anything or make any mention of it to her though.

I had a relatively open ended trip planned. I got there on Tuesday, but did not need to be back at my place until Friday. She had asked me before I got there how long I had planned on staying, and I said I was probably going to stay one night. She wanted to know so she could plan her work schedule and days off. Anyways, I had to live with playing second to her iphone in our old place, but was not going to do it there (boundaries) so when she asked me if I was still going to play poker with her dad today, I said I figured I would fly out later in the morning and take the kids back to my place. I dunno if it meant anything, but she quit texting after that. I got my stuff ready, and put it by the front door. She 'asked' if it was ok for her to get a shower first. I said of course. So I was laying in the lazyboy relaxing, and she came out and was standing next to the chair kinda looking at me. So I patted the side of the chair, and she hopped in and cuddled up, laying her head on my chest, and within minutes was asleep. How I envy those who can sleep so easy!!! Anyways, that lasted about an hour with her drifting in and out of sleep. She did get up at one point to get S3 some chocolate milk, but came back and recuddled up. At this point, her parents were going to be able to come by the house around lunch time, so I said I would wait till they got there to say goodbye to the kids. She was happy about that. I really forget how it happened, or what prompted, but I said if she was able to get off work tonight, I would take her on a date. She said she was supposed to work tonight. I said ok, and left it at that. She walked off to her room, and shut the door. Kinda weird I thought. Anyways, about 5 minutes later she came out and said she had called the few people who could fill in for her tonight, and none would be able to. I didnt say anything other than something like 'ok'.

After her parents came and said goodbye, she drove me and the kiddos to the airport. I loaded the plane and put the kids in. She came over and hugged me and said she would see about getting time off early next week and coming down to my place. I said to let me know. I dont really know why she would be coming down as there are several possible reasons, only picking the kids up is not one as it would be during my time with them. So who knows...

And that is pretty much where I am right now. She did say something about her having to go the the Dr. sometime soon, and I asked her if she had gotten new health insurance yet (since we moved to a new state). She said no. After I got home, I called and had her put on my health insurance plan, and sent her a text letting her know. She said 'ok thank you'.

I will have to go catch up on your sitch as I have been absent from here the past several days. Hope you are doing well oad!