Ready for some forum help

[NewB3]

Do I validate as she talks? Student of likes and dislikes....do I continue my picking up her favs at the grocery when she is out...w/o asking? Part of my being attentive and noticing her needs/wants. Trying to make sure if she does go..."only a fool would leave."
I have always given compliments...though have cut back with a limit of one a day. Is that okay? I do notice when she gets a pedicure and compliment. She no longer tells me of her errands...spa, nails, etc. as she does those things during week at lunch. The only time she tells me is when it will effect me and my schedule. ALA I need to watch the kids. She still always asks my schedule as I do not volunteer anything.
Can I still be attentive and make sure she gets her self/alone time w/o her asking? Does that help or create a cake and eat it sitch? One of the first things she told me in Feb. after bd was she needs some alone time, needs to get out of the house. Personally I think she does not need to work at home OR move her office from the main family floor to be away from work when she is off.

Is there anything I can read? I have started reading books when in the home, as to be available but not focus on her. Just here for kids. I do still cook a lot....because I used to. Part of my things I used to do

Thanks mr. Bond.... I appreciate you being here when I feel stuck or panicked.