You are a true gem sandi, and you make me look back and find pieces that wife has hinted at what she wants. My W has actually said just that. She needs a strong person to be in charge and asked me to take charge in different things in the past year or so, and I just seem to recall all these things now. She also said it was a strong move and she respected that I told everyone at the house that I was taking my house back, and she has wanted me to be more "commanding" for lack of a better word in social situations as well.
It seems like my life experiences (military and my current job, still in military for 1 more year) have pushed me more in this non dominant and quiet self as I cant really talk about what I do. I know this is an excuse, so I have to get around this as soon as I can and start taking charge of other areas of my life as well. I have always been the best when I have been on top of my game, I just need to return to that and pursue my passions again.
Visiting a friend this weekend, and I started going climbing again today. I need to start writing music again and get out and play with more people. I know I can be so much more in this life, and now is my chance. Thank you again for the support sandi, I believe my wife is feeling and has felt exactly that, that I wasnt being the strong and confident man that she needed and knew I was and could be. More than that, I haven't been who I have wanted to be and it doesnt happen by just sitting around.
Me 31 Her 30 M 5.5 T 11 0 Kids Bomb drop: 4/13, EA+PA: 12/13 Separated: 12/13, 3rd chance of counseling:7/14