First post, DENIAL was my HAPPY PLACE!!

[Shining]

Well, check THAT off the list of "to-do's"

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^^^^^ that there is me protecting myself, my kids, and my a$$ets.

After all the other great advice regarding financial protection, kml directed me to Ambivalent's thread last night. Have you read it yet?? If not, especially any fellow newbies, do it, please. I'm so sorry for her sitch. I was stunned at the financial devastation this can, and most often does, cause.

I have an appointment with an attorney tomorrow morning. I'm exploring options, but from what I've been able to research, a post-nup/partition agreement is a good possible option in my state, since there is no legal separation here.

If H agrees to that for example, all financial activity i.e. new debt and income post S would be considered individual, we can file a partition of assets. (obviously more detail to this, but not necessary to post).

CAUTION: Mind-Reading Ahead
I think there is a strong possibility he may actually agree, knowing that he would not have to show me where he has been spending money this summer. (He doesn't know that I know about their trips, etc.) If D is filed, he will have to disclose all CC charges and expose all his "secrets". Further down the road, he may not care if I know. I am hoping (not expecting) it's early enough that he's agreeable.

If he chooses not to agree, I will have to consider other options, including, but not limited to D (legal jargon, lol). Since I haven't even met with attorney yet, I really don't know what all the options are.

Thanks, everyone, for continuing to remind me that my H is not himself right now. Things H would never do before, are migrating over to the list of "oh, yeah, he did that, too".

Maybe we should start a thread of "Things H would never do before MLC, but has now gone and done"

Given this theory, I'm predicting H will soon be adorning a Kim K@rd@shi@n tattoo someplace highly visible.