Magic, You continue to ask the same questions over and over again. I realize you are trying to do things perfectly and w/o errors, but there comes a time when you have to just say no thanks and leave it at that.
I want to suggest to you that you go back and re-read the last 8 threads because the answers to the questions that you have posed are in those postings. Take some time, print off your threads and hi-light your questions and then the answers. You will then have a reference guide to answer these questions w/o everyone coming back and reposting what they've already told you.
As for letting him know when you have commitments after work and need to leave early, the sooner you advise him the better. All you have to do is advise him that on such and such day, you will need to leave 1 hour or even 30 minutes early. You don't need to get into detail and tell him all of your business.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
