Ok ken....I told him. I was partially delaying because I didn't know how early I would need to leave and how much of it is his business to know.

Starsky... It still seems to me like a cookie/carrot with a string attached. I know he is wanting "nice times" with me. ..... But, I need commitment that he is invested in us. How can I say/show that without chasing him away or pressuring him.

How do I say "no thanks" without him receiving it as cold and grumpy, like he accused me before?

Is it a cop out to just say that it probably doesn't make sense financially? Hoping that he gets it?

Last edited by makingmagic; 07/30/14 08:10 PM.
M:46 H:49 T:20yrs
myD:22
H distant summer/12
H sleeping in b'ment: Nov/12
BD: Dec 2/12
asked me begin to move end of Jan/13
moved Jan 7/13 (left my stuff)
"agreed" to "working on r" Mar 3/13(lipservice!)