So sorry to hear about last night Sarah, While my W was living at home I don't think she was having an A but then again, I really can't be certain. I knew that if she had I wouldn't have been able to stand any longer so I didn't snoop or ask questions. I can say this. Just a couple days ago when my W freaked out while packing things to take to "her" house, she said that she had to leave our home because she had to sleep on the couch for 6 months and how "uncomfortable" that was. No one told her to sleep there. In fact even the kids told her she should be sleeping in her bed with me. She acted like this was her ONLY choice or that she had been exiled out of our bedroom. Heck, I even offered to sleep on the couch if she wanted. I think they get this idea in their head and have no choice but to act on it. If she had slept in our bed she may have started to change her mind and she fought that with all her might. It makes no sense but what do they say or do that does make sense?
What possible reason did H have to be at his office or fall asleep on the couch there? I don't know many people who go out to eat at their office. While it wasn't "good DB" to lock the door, IMO you are setting a boundary with him. If he is going to go out and play with OW or stay out until 4:30 AM without saying where he is or why, you don't want him sleeping in your bed. I don't see anything wrong with that. Just my thoughts.
And by the way, he was so wrong to jimi the lock, even if he just wanted his phone charger! He knocked and called your cell and if he wasn't an a$$ he would have known that meant that you didn't want him in there and to leave you be. Why they think they can do things that if we were to do them they would blow their tops is so frustrating!
