advice needed - please help

[stacey9]

hi - just a quick update. H has just left after our 'talk'.

I made sure I looked my best, no talk of R, never mentioned OW either. The bottom line was he doesn't want to continue to pay all of the mortgage. He came up with a figure which he has paid in the last 7 months when he "hasn't even been living here". His choice!

He wanted to keep lawyers out of it just now and try to agree amicably. I told him I couldn't afford to pay any more than I'm paying now so maybe we'll need to get lawyers involved.

The D word was never mentioned once, but he did say he would be looking to buy somewhere else to live and couldn't afford to do that while paying for this place.

So he is talking long-term plans here. I didn't ask if he would be buying a house with OW - he would just have said it was none of my business anyway.

There were no sparks of positivity at all. I feel totally deflated and beat.

I think the next steps are to get the lawyer to draw up an agreement on the finances, and how things are to be paid, but I think this is one step away from D - is this the right thing to do.

I love him so much.....but he is totally gone.

Please help.
Stacey x