Hello Life, I've been trying to do just that. I don't have a boat or anything like that but as my house gets emptier and emptier as my W takes more and more furniture and "stuff", I'm starting to think about some projects like painting and putting in a new floor in the bathroom (old one is in bad shape) that would take my mind off of things and at the same time improve my living space. I talked to my D14 about painting the living room a couple days ago and I told her I would let her pick the color and she seemed like she would like to help me with that. I do need to save up some funds for that kind of thing but that shouldn't take too long.
Before my W left I was doing the same thing as you, trying to come up with things my D's could do with their mom that would bring them closer. I stopped after she took off her ring and moved to the couch. I felt that if she is getting worse than I should just stop and let her live the way she wanted. If she didn't want to take the time to do things with them that was on her. This was part of my deciding to just let her totally alone and do whatever she wanted whenever she wanted. At the time I figured this way she could see what living on her own was like. Well, that didn't make a bit of difference. She still felt like I was somehow stopping her from doing what she wanted. I think there are some WAS's that must totally remove themselves from any interaction before they can ever "feel" free of LBS. Then there seem to be those that even after D and remarrying they still find ways to blame the LBS for any unhappiness. Crazy yes, but look at Bea and AJ. Their ex's can't seem to stop blaming and spewing. So sad.
