Oops. I had a big lapse in judgment this am. H dropped off D7 this morning and she had a meltdown because I insisted that she wear a helmet while riding her scooter. I was so mad at H because (1) he didn't make her do it at his house (although he did say it was a good idea), and (2) he left me to deal with the meltdown while he went to work. I ended up calling him on the way to work, which I know he hates. I took it too far, and blamed her meltdown on the S. I told him that I wish he would acknowledge that she would be better off in one household with one set of rules. He replied that he thinks she just needs to be safe and comfortable, whether it's in one house or two. The conversation deteriorated from there, ending when I said, "I want you to act like a human being and show compassion for someone you claim to love and care about," and he said, "I have to go to work now, goodbye."
I know it was wrong. I shouldn't have called him, and after I did, I should have been more validating. It doesn't matter at this point whether or not he thinks it's best for her to be in one household or two, because we haven't made any permanent decisions. He is just going to view my disagreement as pressure.
So, what am I going to do differently? I'm not going to call him back. I will wait until he brings it up again and validate him then.
