I guess I was trying to illustrate in a story, if you expect total compliance with out question on your choices, then you are trying to control.
I wouldn't comment on her om or turn the spot light onto you, if you turn the bright lights on you she can focus on your faults. Just be a friend. Let her lead and talk on anything other than those 3^^^^ up there.
Weather, ice cream, kids, work shopping etc.
That exactly what I am doing. She got home around midnight last night. I was sleeping. This morning she went to our basement gym to work out I was up but faked sleeping ( really not to bother her etc..). Then when I got back from the gym she and S16 were gone to work.
What worries me is that she took clothes to go out during the day. This tells me she's cutting out of work AGAIN...I can't afford her to get fired.
The other thing is , I know she changes into street clothes in her office, but she changes back to work clothes when she comes home....where does she do this?
I know she has already made an appointment for a lie detector test at the MC office after OM leaves for his country.
W 53 H 51, S 16, S 21 33 years M 28 DD 3 Feb 11, 2014 S21 and His Fiancée move in with us 8/14 http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubb...965#Post2477965
