I'm having a difficult time today and need a little encouragement.
I'm starting to believe that my H is a pathological liar. It would make a lot of sense especially his haste to get out of the contract for the new build and then just turn two-faced on me.
I snooped today and logged into our home security system account online. Under the history tab shows the date and times the door was opened, closed, and when the alarm was armed or disarmed. It made me sick to my stomach as I got to see his daily traffic behavior since I've been gone. One thing that stood out was a repetition of an event almost every night. The door would open and close and then the alarm would be set to armed. Then a few hours later the system would disarm and the door opened and then closed. Then it would set to no motion meaning no one is in the house. About 15-20 minutes later the door would open and close and then set to armed for the remainder of the night.
I know there can be many different explanations for this but would it be really bad to just say he has someone visiting the house on a nightly basis? I feel tempted to call my neighbor and ask if they've seen anything suspicious. The kids and I have been gone for almost a month. Someone has got to be asking questions.
I feel like maybe I've been lied to throughout our entire relationship. That our relationship started out as a lie because he was still with the undisclosed girl. And as he was growing attached to me he was leaving the other. I found evidence that he was still in contact with her while he and I were just dating. I started to snoop after I discovered the text message she sent him. I confronted him about the ticket stub that showed he was at a show with her one evening...it had her name on it! He said he was just being a friend because her parents fell ill to something and just showing support. So I let it go because we were engaged and I thought that meant something so why bother with the past. He was committed to me now. I know this is a very dark road I'm on but I'm willing to travel down it to find the truth. I don't want to be married to someone who can't /won't be honest with me. Being lied to is...a whole different animal.
Now, I'm afraid to go home. I don't want to have to look him in the face as he continues to lie to me. I feel disgusted knowing that I loved this man, pledge my life to him, and yet I'm not really sure who he is.
