I won't stay here all day in the motel while you sleep, and ruin my expensive over seas holiday.
It was no holiday, it was a trip to burry my nan and that gem was the day after! Supportive not, or threatening if I could not open my mouth and get my chit together he would force us in a plane to go home.
It's both controlling and punishing from the ic perspective. When I told her that story she pointed it out.
It depends on why and how you say things. If its all your way, then it's control. If your wife has a choice and you can go with her choice then that's not so much.
If I've explained that well enough.
You have explained it well.
My plan the next week is to be on my best behavior.
I am avoiding starting any and all conversation with WAW.
The biggest thing I have to avoid is shifting the focus to me. I realized that sometimes the WAW has a thought about what is happening, I comment on it and the focus ends up now being on me instead of on what she's doing or what the OM has her doing.
W 53 H 51, S 16, S 21 33 years M 28 DD 3 Feb 11, 2014 S21 and His Fiancée move in with us 8/14 http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubb...965#Post2477965
