Please pardon the temporary interruption of paranoia and insanity, I'm good now. He texted to say that it was just everything going on and he's trying to work on so many things and none of them are going the way he wants. Then said he's also having moments of overwhelming depression, but he's getting through it.
He's starting to understand that the process and the answers have to occur within him I think. That's good.
Tonight we went to dinner to celebrate neighbor's daughters birthday and the kids arranged themselves so that H ended up sitting next to neighbor ( the EA one). His interactions with her have been different, I don't see the same " connection" that I used to. He even seemed a little uncomfortable and kept getting up to walk around table and talk to kids. I didn't have the "third wheel" feeling I used to get either. Might be my progress but I also think he's much more cognizant. After dinner he applogized for how the seating arrangements ended up. I've also noticed he makes sure he tells me exactly what's going on in any conversations he has with her and why the conversation needed to occur.
So I have a question for those that have reconciled- how do you deal with the former EA if that person can't possibly be kept out of your lives? Our kids are best friends and we often do activities together. And quite frankly I actually really like her and think that while she was turning to my H a little too much for help with work and her marriage issues, my H was more enamored with her than vice versa. Just curious to hear how people are doing who still have the former EA around....
Me 41 H 40 M 20 T 23 S 19,16, 8 D 13 BD1 dec 2012 not sure going to work BD2 sep 2013 seeking a D Filed oct 2013, D Feb 2015 Life is about daring greatly, about being in the arena- Brene Brown
