Amazing, some of the stuff they come up with, Shining! Hang in there...
AJM - yes, the blaming changes...H blamed me for most everything at BD last summer, it went to about 50/50 over the fall and winter, and last week he blamed himself for '90%' of it. (Maybe I should prepare for it to swing back the other way soon.) I just still am surprised at the anger that is still there, after an entire year. I really have to wonder what he is like with other people, all his new friends including OW. I wonder how much they know of what is really going on in his life.
I'm rambling a bit, but one other thing he asks me almost every time he sees me (and this is almost the only thing he has asked me about myself all year) is who I am closest too - sister, brother, friend A, friend B. Am I closer to friend C? Who is my best friend? I'm not sure what to make of this either. He is still so lost...
Me 53, XH 57 M 20 (+1.5) years, no kids BD June '13 H moved out July '13 Confirmed long-suspected PA Feb '14 H filed for D Nov. '14 D March '15