1st post. Long but please read, help!

[Zues126]

I'm ready for a 2x4. Found an area that I know proves I have growing to do so I'm exposing it so I can get to work!

I'm having trouble feeling comfortable with my sister. My sister left her husband years ago and started a new R. She left him 6 months ago. She's been on a road of self discovery and feeling very empowered.

My STBX hung out with her a few evenings the weekend before BD. she even mentioned that some of the things my sister said helped her realize she wanted out of the R. Since BD she and my STBX have become very close.

Now- I know that my sister didn't cause this. If I had been the H only a fool would leave this wouldn't have happened, and as is this would've happened anyway. Yet I find myself very put off by her. I don't agree with her views towards marriage and R as being disposable. And though I should know better i admit that I don't care for the fact that she gave the 'you go girl you don't need a man' speech to my W. but most of all, my sister keeps wanting to talk to me about how much better off she is and how she's excited about how much better ill be now. I can agree with the growth part but I'm early conflicted. And I'm also feeling strange because I know she's much closer to me W than to me right now.

I have forgiven my wife for being a WAS as I put her in more pain than she could cope with. And I can say the same thing for my sister giving her the benefit of the doubt. But I'm having trouble with being around someone that wants to celebrate it and their freedom having shed the deadweight.

Help me grow. Thank you.