Ready for some forum help

[MrBond]

You're getting all of the advice mixed up between the books, the forum and your C.

"The work will be done for the 45 minutes at home. I am pretty sure. Isn't that doing something?."

You missed the point. If she WANTS to do the work, then that's great. If you sense her being hesitant about it, or that her heart isn't in it, then don't pressure her.

"However, getting her to read the book/site..... I feel she would take that as trying to change her mind and would not do it. Would that not be a pursuit?"

You already got her to go to C. That was pursuing.

"Getting her to say to me " do you want to come back to counseling?" To me last night was huge. He had just gotten her to admit that she got something out of it and that it felt good to at least be moving forward. She wanted to come back if I did."

Are you sure she meant it that way or did she mean "do YOU want to come back to counseling?". She could very well have said it for YOUR benefit and not hers.

"Although I feel that he was trying to soften her so she can examine this sitch with another POV."

That's fine, but you need to just be cautious.