There is one thing I have noticed lately: H occasionally says things that very clearly indicate that he has actually been listening to me (since BD), that he really does hear me. That surprised me the other day because I was certain that I had been banging my head against a brick wall and that it all fell on deaf ears. He also seems to keep making it a point to tell me the 'great' things he's doing (job hunting, seeing a counselor, reading a religious book, etc.). Anyone else experienced these things?
And I think you're right Bea, that they are trying to normalize the abnormal, so they don't appear so crazy...just makes me sad.
Me 53, XH 57 M 20 (+1.5) years, no kids BD June '13 H moved out July '13 Confirmed long-suspected PA Feb '14 H filed for D Nov. '14 D March '15