There is one thing I have noticed lately: H occasionally says things that very clearly indicate that he has actually been listening to me (since BD), that he really does hear me. That surprised me the other day because I was certain that I had been banging my head against a brick wall and that it all fell on deaf ears. He also seems to keep making it a point to tell me the 'great' things he's doing (job hunting, seeing a counselor, reading a religious book, etc.). Anyone else experienced these things?

And I think you're right Bea, that they are trying to normalize the abnormal, so they don't appear so crazy...just makes me sad.


Me 53, XH 57
M 20 (+1.5) years, no kids
BD June '13
H moved out July '13
Confirmed long-suspected PA Feb '14
H filed for D Nov. '14
D March '15