Saving my family - Part 12

[Scorp7]

Here is another one I struggle with. I now Sandi's rules say to not pursue and I agree with that for the most part. What I'm wondering is, at what point is it ok to ask her if she may like to do something together? Even to do something as a family?

I asked her to be a part of my D5's birthday a month ago and she agreed to that. It was a big step and we had a great time together. If I hadn't asked she wouldn't have come. Considering that, should I not continue to ask her to do things together going forward?

In some ways, Sandi's rules seem to almost indicate that I should just sit back and wait for her to maybe someday have a change of heart and then she would pursue me? (When I say sit back, I mean not do anything to try to initiate but still working on myself and the GAL).