First post, DENIAL was my HAPPY PLACE!!

[Shining]

Well, this is new.

180, held off responding to text. I did something different. Usually, I would "mind-read" and offer stuff I was never asked, based on my assumptions. I waited, and realized my instinctive answer was not anything he actually asked me.
# 1. "No showings. I guess price too high." And #2. "Busy?"

I finally responded "What's up?"

H: "The price is too high." (H decided to repeat previous text)

....crickets.

H: "Thoughts?"

Me: "it sounds like (realtor) advises to give it another week."

H: " yeah, I just gave him crap bc blah blah blah....."

.....crickets.

Then he said "after a week, how about (dollar amount)?

Me: "I'm fine with that."

What I stopped myself from doing:
Asking follow up questions in an effort to keep him chatting
Answering impulsively and immediately
Answering questions I wasn't asked

This may sound small, but it felt big.

Then, hours later, and for the first time in a month, H texted D13. (She is the only one he contacts). It was a pic of the dog, and "how are you doing?" She was surprised.

H asked if they went to (other state) to visit their dad. He seems fixated on this topic because he has asked several times in past months. Or he just forgot.

They didn't go, and they haven't for years. Xh comes here now, so kids can be near friends, stay in activities, work.... This isn't new. Xh was here for S17x2 graduation already.

Oh well. Doesn't matter, I suppose. Just documenting a change, for the most part.