WAW not admitting to affair #3

[shodan]

not being controlling...what does that mean?
- not getting angry or losing my temper
- not dictating what my wife does, where she goes, etc.
- not worrying about schedules, if my wife is late, etc.
- if my wife takes the kids somewhere, I just say "cool, have fun"
- if we were actually talking...just giving her a voice in our family, not criticizing her for decisions that she makes, giving her freedom to make bad decisions and mistakes