Here is why I am looking for advice. I spoke with my MIL (she knows about the D announcement, I told her after she pressed me a ton on it). She told me that she has noticed my controlling ways for years and that I can have a bad temper about the smallest things. She even once said something to my W about it. I have yelled at my kids for things to the point where my D10 cried to my MIL about it (not sure how long ago this was). She said to my MIL that she must be a bad girl since "my dad always yells at me." I never realized that I was this bad. My heart broke when I heard this news.
Therefore, it sounds like my anger and control issues go WAY back and are pretty deep issues for my W (based on what my MIL said). Does that mean I ignore the A? No. I already told her that I do not want to live in an open M. But I need to be extra diligent to show her that I am a changed man (I really am..nothing like your W filing for D to make you change your habits, no matter how deeply engrained).
Me: 40, W: 40 M: 15, T: 18 D - 10, S - 7 D announcement 6/7/2014 A discovered 7/20/2014 (but denied by W) Still living together and sharing same bed
