You're right T2, I think Heather's 2x4 was good in that it helped me see this really clearly for the first time. I didn't see the anger as wallowing but it's just the same thing in a different guise. I do believe staying away from W at this point is the best thing. She is just so caught up in getting everything SHE wants from the house but of course doesn't want to do the work or pay the $ to her lawyer to make up a list and come to agreement on all the other things like who gets the house, how to split her retirement funds, custody and visitation schedule, etc.
The weird thing was during the day she was saying things like "Do you want me to keep your X-mass stocking in the cedar chest. It's wool and it will keep it from getting moth eaten." She said the same about some other things like she expects to have enough of a relationship that some of my stuff and her stuff would be mixed together. Then she pulls the freak out. Lulled me into a sense that she was going to be reasonable and appreciated that i was being so cooperative. Not sure but that occured to me later. I'm still not used to this new vindictive person she's become. She used to not have a vindictive bone in her body.
