For the first time in a long time I took a look at my divorce budget. I find it comforting to know I have a plan if worse comes to worst. One of the most intimidating parts of potentially being on my own is dealing with the house alone. It's big and expensive and has a huge property. I'm pretty sure I'd like to stay in it for at least some period of time (1-3 years) to give the kids some stability but it'd be rough financially and I wouldn't be able to afford to outsource much of the maintenance. I really need to get my confidence up about this, I need to just start dealing with things to prove to myself that I can find a way to handle it. Next kid free weekend needs to be a home maintenance weekend for sure! I think this would do a lot to help me tame some of my fears.


M: 42
H: 43
M: 8 years
S7 and D4
H has D19 and S25 from previous M
Bomb: 3/6/14 OW discovered, EA & PA
1st separation, 10 days, decided to reconcile & moved back in. Fail
2nd separation: 5/1/14