You went from this...compassion for your daughter's situation...
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The thing is she is a 14 year old and a lot of how she is acting is kind of "normal" 14 year old stuff. Staying in her room, on her phone and internet, etc. If everything was fine between her mom and I, I might not be so worried. I have a feeling she may be put on the spot very soon and having to say who she would rather live with as in my state at her age she gets to make up her own mind about where she wants to live. I do know she is very upset that her sister is moving out to live with her boyfriend. She is so much happier when her sister is around! Now she is having to deal with that, her parents D, her mom's insanity, not being around her friends half the time and feeling out of place with them because she won't be able to go to the same school with them next year, having to deal with going from small private school setting to big, public school where she will know not one person.
to this...a rant about W's insane behavior...
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WAS's destroy the lives of those who love them more than anyone, those who have stuck with them through good and bad times, but don't care at all. If my W had known someone who did what she is doing now a few years ago, she would have been appalled! Now she just does it and expects everyone to understand that it's what she must do. I know I should be Used to this by now. I was detached and finally moving somewhat forward and now, for some reason, this latest thing has me so angry and frustrated! If you put these MLCers on, say, Dr. Phil and they acted the way they do, said the things that they say to us, the audience would want to hang them from the nearest telephone pole!
To this...wallowing...
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I'm so tired of dealing with this. I am so all around tired. I think I need to be careful and not fall into the trap of depression. I'm starting to avoid things I need to deal with and that isn't good. I just want some time to take a breath where there isn't some crisis caused by my W to deal with. Sorry to be so negative Heather. I just need to get my chit together and get back in the game!
Ok. Snap outta it.
Which guy does YOUR DAUGHTER NEED right now?
Look, again, at all she is dealing with above. Stop fighting what is...It JUST IS. That's it.
You're absolutely right, it S.U.C.K.S. in ALL CAPS IN NEON...now, get over it for HER. She needs you right now more than ever.
Get angry at the sitch and use it to move forward. You can do this. Buy your D flowers or the new 5 Seconds of Summer CD. Give her a hug, a smile, a burger from Wendy's, whatever, just remind her that you love her today and you feel badly for all she is dealing with.
Sorry for the 2x4, but I think it was warranted.
Love,
Heather
"You know, it's times like these when I realize what a superhero I am." Tony Stark/Iron Man
“Focus on what you can do, then do it with all your heart.” Lois Wilson
