Don't know if you've read through any other threads yet. But while answering Starsky's questions, you may want to look up shodan's first thread, here in Infidelity.
He's new on this journey, too, and his thread has A TON of info that you should find valuable.
Most importantly, hang on to pretty much every word Starsky is telling you. He's an old pro, and his firm guidance helped shepherd my M back into the Land of the Living.
Sorry you're here, man.
M: 40 H: 44 Married 14 years S11 & D6; D20 & D19 from previous M 2BDs/PAs, 8 years apart Piecing: April 2014