My H's MLC #2

[Ssarah]

So an update on my sitch, not too much happened the 2 weeks since my volcanic erruption until this weekend. H was home for the 2 weeks, but as OW's birthday neared (this past weekend), I expected for him to go running back and he did. This weekend was the 1st time ever (since BD or in our 13 yrs together) that without notice H did not return home. From my observation their R hit a rough patch for 2 weeks but now it's back on track. He never came home Friday night, came just to shower and change Saturday afternoon (and of course have a confrontation with me) and then went out for a few hours on Sunday again. The only positive I see is that their perfect union is slopwly starting to crack. They had their 1st fight I think so let's see where that takes them.

I've been wondering something and would like everyone's insight. H is leaving for almost a month in August to visit family. At this point it will be nice to have him out of our hair. Everyone keeps saying that this distance may make him miss me and the kids more since he'll be surrounded by family.. our nephews and other kids. I think this distance may put the focus more on OW and that being away from her for a month may make him realize how much he cares for her and not us. Just curious to see what you all thought.

On another note, after all that talk of D and hiring an attorney, H has still done nothing to pursue. This weekend when he popped in to freshen up for OW I confronted him about bills to which he blew up at me. Usually in his typical MLC fashion this would be when he'd threaten his one step closer to D (yelling that he'll hire, yelling that he'll send in the check to finally retain, yelling that he'll file), but this time he didn't even mention it. Funny how when I finally called his bluff and retained a real lawyer I took all the wind out of his sails.