"The third time's lucky. "

[TL72*]

you guys are great, thanks for all your responses, helps to vent it out and know that others are going through something similar. Georgiabelle, thanks for the encouragement - I always wonder to myself if i'm handling it right when something happens and I just go with my gut - trying to make those changes still and the old me would have exploded. definitely not worth a migraine .
Matt I do think we're making progress - Brightfuture - yes that is exactly what he said 6 months ago - he wasn't happy here and had to get out and away from ME to be happy. Didn't want the burden or responsibility and I think felt guilty too- he would never have eye contact with me. My how things change. Just glad I don't have to see him face to face. He wanted to keep things friendly he said. I guess this is his idea of friendly. Matt you are so right - happiness is found within, he's looking in all the wrong places.That's his journey though. Shining, nice to meet you, so sorry you are here. I'll go read up on your sitch. I love that trash bag analogy - so true. Reminds me I should buy a whole new trash can. Thanks for the hug!!