re: I also feel badly about her having to be there for the blow up. I was thinking I should send her a message saying how sorry I was that the day ended so badly.
If it bugs you that much - you can always tell her, you're sorry that she was exposed to the incident. It has been very difficult for you ... something simple & brief Then ask her how she is generally speaking, before ending. Be pleasant & not too lengthy when uncertain (there's always later).
I think I can trust her to not say anything to my W if I ask her not to but then again, she is my W's friend. I need to think on that one. Time to get on with MY life and understand I just can't control anything that my W says or does and just deal with her as things
All the more reason to keep brief & simple. In other words, you're sorry she was exposed to your 'M issues' at this challenging time. Period.
If she tells your wife she heard from you, it can't harm you anyway. You are communicating with 'the sane' of the two. Your W is 'all over the place,' regardless of what you/her friend say(s) to her, or does not say ... see how you feel. Your 'gut', your call.
re: your life - yes, keep going. It's not easy dealing w/these 'loonie' behaviours that can easily impact on you. Up to this morning I was working on my goals (sometimes feels so formidable). I chip away, break with a movie, music/other, before chipping away again. My allergies are really acting up today (after > over a year now!) & I feel tired, so I will take it one (1/2 ) hour at a time!
Feel good Matt, p.
pbetra ---- M: 15 yrs (in 2014) BD: 6/03/2014 Infidelity ('known' from July 2014) Denied PA Feb 2015 2 leave Mar 2015 (left early Summer). Some contact. Back briefly 2017 (after family death) Separated 2017
) hour at a time! 