I don't know that I want to go there. I mean, yes, generally I want to be collaboratively solving problems associated with our M.
This is the cell phone she uses to constantly text OM in front of me and kids. And to text with the conspiring girlfriends.
She claimed this is a phone required to run her business. If that's the case, shouldn't her business pay for the phone? And if she can't afford business expenses, isn't that what business loans are for?
There's also wired phone on her desk that works perfectly well. Granted, she's not home all the time, but where is she all the time?
And she gets her first commission check next week. So couldn't she be buying her own business phone with her own business proceeds?
Or maybe the money spent at the tanning spa, etc. would be better spent on her business.
See, she's played me so much that I have a hard time seeing this as anything other than just another expense she tries to drop on me before she bails. She relies on the Bank of Zew to fix everything.
I have to stop being the guy that fixes everything. She calls it paternalistic and resents it, while at the same time depending on it. It's a lose-lose for me.
Agree. If/when you guys ever get to the reconciliation phase, there are things we can help you with to better work collaboratively with your wife. Trying to do so on the cellphone she uses to conduct her affair, at THIS stage, wouldn't be the best time.
Nothing wrong with an airy "Hey, love to help you out if you can see another way, but I'm just not willing to take on that long-term commitment right now, considering where things are with our marriage" thing. But I wouldn't waffle on the underlying position if I were you.
