Wonka - I did say that the inadequate parenting isn't a universal! And interestingly (and sadly) you did have a late childhood trauma (divorce) that impaired your coping skills.
I believe most people who have a MLc have poor coping skills, usually from their childhood, one way or another.
I do know one poster who had a pretty mean MLCer who worked though it - however he wasn't mean for a very long period.
I think the very mean ones have particularly bad coping skills
