I'm so glad to know that my posts make you feel better!
And I KNOW it's counterintuitive, but BELIEVE it. I can tell you for a fact, that when I finally stopped asking about the OW, when I finally stopped checking in on him at work and sending him messages, when I finally stopped having R talks---THAT'S when he started to reconnect. More importantly (and seriously -- this is more important) it's when I started to feel better about myself. Don't detach to make her do something. Detach because it's healthier and happier FOR YOU.
There was a very telling time on a recent family vacation. We were all on the beach--my parents and siblings and their kids....And people headed back to the house for lunch. H didn't move--he was staring at the sea. And I just left him there. He needed to stare at the sea and sit in whatever brain space he was in. Before I would have asked him what was wrong and cajoled him to come back. No more. He's got to do this all by himself.
He's IMing me right now. He wants to know how my day is going.
Anyway - truly try not to pursue. Truly do things for YOURSELF - because you deserve them! Believe that doing things for you will make you feel better. When you feel better, you will be more attractive. Put out positive energy to attract positive energy. And trust that you're on the right path for you...You didn't ask to be here, and you wouldn't have picked it - but it's where you are. Make the best of it!
Now - I'm off to run 4 miles in 30 minutes. (WOOO! I'M A WARRIOR! GET SOME! LOL!)
