I will give youan example how all this his thinking/my thinking. When we were first divorced very little conversation took place. Eventually isaw that my pent up pain and ager wasn't helping anyone. In fact it was hurting holding on to it.

Now my ex and I can and dotalk about pretty much everything save his affair partner/wife. I didn't work this hard for him. I dd it for me and my kids. The kids feel better that they can talk infront of us together. About a year ago my daughter fromSlovakia came home to visit. She stayed with me. She went with the kids to his house. We talked about it later. She said that she thinks that I must have made my peace with wat he has done. I told her this isn't about him. This is about my kids feeling ok about us being able to get along and about me letting go of anger.

So what you do with ring is not about her and what she may or may not think. It is about what message you are sending to yourself and your boys, period. If you keep wearing it, let them know why. If you decide to take it off,explain that too. Let others think what they will, this is about how you interpret where you are.

Kat

Me-53(and learning!)
S24, S21, D18, D17
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