I just remembered that I sometimes used to joke with h that he was stuck at 14. At that time I was always talking about his sense of humor (still laughs at fart jokes or his love of video games) I can't believe I blocked that memory out for so long.

Me 44 H 42
M 10 T 12 (at time of BD)
Ss 20 16
S11 (special needs)

BD 9/13 H "unhappy for years" moves to seperate bedroom
10/13 EA/PA confirmed but denied
S and I move out 3/15