Still confused

[Fartiltre]

Dawgy,

I am not that familiar with your story, but I stumbled on this one!

I used to enjoy my alone time but now it scares the crap out of me . I know get out and GAL but Im too tired alot of nights after work to do alot

This is YOUR choice and only yours. The feeling of loneliness is very common here and I am very familiar with the feeling of alone-time that you describe.

The case is that you can work around this, but you need to change your view:

FIRST: I you are tired then go to bed – if you are not in bed, then start doing something that makes you either happy or tired.
SECOND: You are talking about a feeling and that comes from within you. That means that you have the power to change that feeling (took me a year to comprehend this, so be patient) You can actually change things happening around you, so you will feel better or you can decide that the feeling you feel is OK and that alone will make you feel better.

So either decide that it is ok to feel scared or lonely OR make a list of what makes you tired or happy! I can’t make that list for you – nobody but you can. If you read through the threads here you will find that many LBS starts exercising, take up a new hobby, redecorate homes, reconnect with old friends and so on….it is absolutely doable but it demands a decision, determination and work. Unfortunately it also takes time but at the moment we all have that at hand.

The “I am to tired” will get you absolutely nowhere here! I know the feeling so well. Tired, sad, thinking about the WAS but you have to man up and start doing something.

You already know all of this – now make it happen!

Oh….do get a signatureline on your posts – helps everybody identify!

All the best
F