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Well….eight weeks in to our separation - 3 weeks ZERO contact - and H initiated contact by phone! Amusingly techmology failed me so I didn't realize he called until 24 hrs later. Probably good as I might have pounced on the phone otherwise!

So before I called back tonight I wrote a few things down:
- Listen and validate H feelings
- No relationship talk unless he brings it up
- H is an independent person - he makes decisions based on his wants and needs
- Be the woman only a fool would leave

Did 10mins meditation, some power posturing (odd combination) and drew a big STOP sign to refer to in case things headed south in my head. All this for someone I've lived with for 15 years!

Call lasted 2 minutes. His tone was friendly (and I hope mine was too). He said there were 2 things he was calling about:

(1) H asked if I wanted to get together next Wed night for a drink to catch up and talk about things. I said sure…but then realized (thinking to myself) I will possibly be taking on a volunteer role on Wed nights starting next week. So I said I'll have to get back to him about times on Thurs or Fri this week because I have an "interview thing" tomorrow night and won't know til then if I'm available on Wed next week.

(2) He mistakingly thought I RSVP'd to a documentary night thing that his friend hosts and that we used to go to together. Not sure where that was going….but I nipped it in the bud and said I didn't know anything about it.

Tempted as I was to ask how things were at his end I let the call end there with him saying "good luck with your interview thing" on closing.

Pretty happy with this breakthrough! Hope DR arrives soon so that I can be more prepared for next week. Will try to jot some thoughts down in the meantime…