That's why FB recommends no mind reading and having no expectations. And ... You're still focusing on her .... and what kinds of kisses you're getting..... And on her .......
Good point.
What I have done for myself is really focused on my control issues. I know I slip up sometimes but I have gotten a lot better.
My anger is pretty much gone. I don't find myself getting angry anymore.
I have to focus a little but more energy in self control around S16. He had an appointment last night and I was having a hard time getting him moving.
When I got upset with him he commented that it was because I was loosing my wife. Then he tells his mother dad is nuts.
I know he is getting upset with her but to make it about her is bad for me.
We were passing a carnival in town when she it all up about how cool it was. My S16 says " oh wow it's so cool I can go there with my boyfriend"
Everything in the car got eerily silent after that.
W 53 H 51, S 16, S 21 33 years M 28 DD 3 Feb 11, 2014 S21 and His Fiancée move in with us 8/14 http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubb...965#Post2477965
