Im trying to work on me guys . Its very difficult to watch her suffer and work on me . Shes been having a real tough time and I hurt for her . But I know I must stop doing this and concentrate on me and my boys . It means alot of alone time which is very very difficult to deal with . I used to enjoy my alone time but now it scares the crap out of me . I know get out and GAL but Im too tired alot of nights after work to do alot

Shes crying alot and she says that work is her sanity . I dont know anything about her affair at all now . I dont know if they are in deep or going the other way . I want to know just to understand my position in all this at this stage

Please chime in guys this is really tough . I know I dont need to tell you guys this

Me 45 W 45
Son 16 Son 14
Married 23 together 27
W threatened sep several times
W still at home
A discovered Mar 17 2014
A ended DEC 2 ( skeptical )