Thank you ladies and gent for dropping by and leaving your thoughts!

I feel I've reached a new level of peace with my sitch. Accepting it for what it is, and that it will take more time for the physical intimacy to return. I'm spending more time focusing on all the good things in my life and marriage, instead of on the "missing" parts.

Hyper focus on the M, and on "fixing" the M, can be very draining. I think sometimes, especially early on, we analyze too much, read too much, surround ourselves with too much destruction. We TRY too hard, and that never works. Know when to take a break and just enjoy your life and be yourself. You'll never get today back, so think hard on how you'd like to spend it.

Live in the moment, focus on positive things, and surround yourself with positive people. Do something nice for someone, make the world a tiny bit better.

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W says she is committed to at least finish her major annual project, (about 2 months to go) before leaving her job. My guess is she will stay longer.

One thing I've noticed is that on the days she returns from work frazzled and grumpy, she soon mellows out once in our home and with me. smile It seems our home and I truly are a calming sanctuary. cool

Originally Posted By: TVS
Keep finding ways to connect with her emotionally FY. Not just spend time together doing an activity, but not really connecting. Think. Think of things that may draw you two closer.

Or as someone very wise has told me, numerous times, show her the possibilities of what could be...


Thanks, TVS. I've recently been thinking more about this because it does seem W is beginning to be more open to connecting.

I'm being serious when I say MLC can be a very exciting and positive time in our lives.

M: A really long time.
Crisis: 5 years.
She's still worth it.

Life is never made unbearable by circumstances, but only by lack of meaning and purpose. -Viktor Frankl