The reason we are fixated on growth is for two big reasons. One, as you know, is that it is your best chance to get what you want 'specifically'. A miraculous recovery of a special someone.
But moreover it's your ONLY chance to get what you want in LIFE.
You've paid for a lesson. You've paid for it with a loss, and with a lot of pain. We want you to learn the lesson so that you don't have to pay for it again and again with future relationships and furthermore with future dissatisfaction with yourself and your life.
You were here before and didn't learn the lessons. I hate to say this to you...but we don't want you back! Unless it's to help others!
So it's ok to be aware of just what the lesson cost. Just make sure to get your pain's worth.
So let me ask the important question. If you were told by God himself that this relationship was never coming back...what changes would you make for yourself to improve your life?
PS- proud of you for not self medicating. That's not much growth by itself (it is in a way) but opens up the possibility of growth that self medication interferes with.
Me:38 XW:38 T:11 years M:8 years Kids: S14, D11, D7 BD/Move out day: 6/17/14, D final Dec 15
