I think what Im seeing is that I've become very good at detaching when he or anyone else goes into a hole mode.
Then detachment goes into objective mode as if Im monitoring someone else.
I think possibly Im willing to go on a little longer because I feel in control. I can detach if needed, I have my own home and my own job, don't depend on him for anything but companionship!He's not around my children much at all and he's two hours away! I see him when I can see him, and don't allow his mental trips to ruin my life or devastate me like Xh did.
Geez, who's the shallow one now folks? Looks like its me!
