I work where I do because it was the first job I had outside of the home after being a stay at home mom for 10 years. I had my CNA at one time and decided I wanted to get started in that field again.
Dance of Anger... I have that book. Not sure what this dance of anger is....
But he doesn't distance himself from me, and I don't try and pursue him and never felt like I needed to pursue him. We just gel together quite well.
Sex is always amazing between us. Our drives are a match. I've never been pressured to do anything I didn't want to ( like ex made me do)and if Im too tired some nights, he's ok with that!
His tantrums....and his issues. Im seeing them as that. Adult tantrums. And his issues. It's not my job to try and convince someone that's completely in an irrational state of mind, other than what they're wrapped up in at that time. I can state the facts and walk away until he's chilled out. Which I usually do and that just even makes him more angry!
Though to an extent he is not available to me.
I've realized that I may crave more availability, but I myself am unavailable to a certain extent too.
