Yup. Mom and Dad gave me a "concerned talk" when I was somewhere around 12? That was the first time I had heard the term.
They worried that I was too much of a people-pleaser. My friends walked on me, I always gave stuff away because I felt happier knowing someone else was happy... I didn't think it could be a detrimental trait until recently.
Why do I think I do that? Possibly because I'm uncomfortable when others are uncomfortable.
Mom had to have everything perfect. She eventually outgrew that, but.... You can guess the rest.
I appreciate the clarity regarding forgiveness. I'm rushing toward the finish line when I haven't even tied my shoes.
Working on me does need to be the first focus. Big challenge for us people-pleasers!
Leaving him to his stuff. I hear that, I read that, I cognitively get it. I am close to really getting it. Sooooooo close.
Thank you, uR.
M44, H44, both M before M4 yrs, T6 BD 7/13 ILYB something isn't right with me H att suicide 2/14 S 4/14 OW disc 5/14 D final 4/15
