First post, confused

[asat82]

So W just came by my house... she called twice which I didnt answer, but then texted me that she was at the gate and needed to talk. I let her come in, I stood firm with everything and told her the same things I said over the phone. I told her I didnt want to talk about anything unless she was honest, and no R talk unless she ends the affair. She got somewhat honest with me about the guy and then asked how I knew. I never told her. I said this was all very disrespectful and I never wanted any of this seeing other people. We definitely never agreed to relationships. I stayed strong and didnt stray too far from the same points I told her over the phone. She went through different emotions and finally told me that she would break things off with other man this week. She also said that this doesn't mean that we are ok and back together. She says she still is planning on divorce, but she understands that I feel very disrespected and is going to end things.

She requested a hug at the end and I told her I could not do that at this time while there is another man in the picture. I used the other man in the picture line a few times. She kept pushing the hug and I never caved. I gave her one quick pat on the arm as she was walking out. She said she would contact me next week after she ends things with the other guy. Win or not, Ill take it as a small victory even if she still wants a divorce. I know she has some respect for me at least.

Now to work on myself and stay dark in the meantime.